When the pandemic started and I was forced into teaching online, I decided to let my hair grow long and shaggy since my students weren’t going to be able to see me anyway. While I’ll still be teaching online until the Fall, I recently got my first haircut in well over a year to celebrate the end of the Mad Masking Era.
In the meantime, I wound up conducting an unintentional sociological experiment as I noticed both friends and strangers treating me differently with my long hair than when I had short hair. And when I finally did get a haircut, the same friends who’d been ribbing me as a “hippie” congratulated me as if I’d just saved a family from a burning building while priests who used to scowl at me in church with my long locks were now smiling at me as if I’d finally repented from a very sinful pattern of behavior.
So, this little experiment of mine proved to be weird but instructive. Obviously, I’m the exact same person with long hair or short hair but that’s not how I was treated. Frankly, it was rather disheartening to realize how many people judge others purely on the basis of their appearance.
Over 40 years ago, when I was living in a monastery in California, a wise old priest told me something that I’ll never forget: “The one sin in the world that is the most-often committed but the least-often confessed is the sin of rash judgment.” In later years, as a trial lawyer, I would always begin my opening statement to the jury by recounting what that old priest had told me as a means of encouraging the jurors to wait until they heard all the evidence before reaching any conclusions about my client.
And when I return to the classroom in the Fall, I’ll tell my students what I always do on the first day of class: “While first impressions are important, that’s only because our society puts way too much emphasis upon them.”
A priest, a lawyer and a teacher walk into bar and the bartender says "Welcome Showtime Joe 2.0!"